Trauma and grief

Trauma and grief

There are many different causes of psychological trauma: violence, sexual abuse, the threat or the witnessing of either, particularly in childhood, or extreme or protracted verbal abuse. Catastrophic events, war or other mass violence can also cause psychological trauma. The loss of a loved one or the end of a significant relationship may also prove traumatic. Sometimes, even a person’s own actions, can be traumatic if the offender feels helpless to control their own actions.

However, different people react differently to similar events. One person may perceive an event to be traumatic that another may not, and not everyone who experiences a traumatic event will become psychologically traumatized.

The after effects of trauma can also vary enormously. Some people may be plagued by nightmares or recurring memories of the traumatic event. Sometimes post-traumatic stress may manifest as depression or mania. Some may feel they have largely dealt with the memory but are still nervous or stressed in particular situations as a result of it. Sometimes people may experience psychosomatic symptoms. For some a sense of deadness or numbness might occur.

Whatever your circumstances, trauma and post-traumatic stress need to be treated with sensitivity and patience. I do not get my clients to repeatedly relive traumatic event(s) as many psychotherapists do. I have met many people who have been severely damaged by this approach when painful feelings have become associated with other things in their life, and I regard this as a very dangerous approach.

Instead there are a wide range of NLP and hypnotherapy techniques which can help with reducing the pain of the traumatic memories and clearing up unhelpful reactions to it. I have also found that EFT/TFT interventions are often very helpful. I aim to remove the emotional ‘sting’ of the initial trauma(s) quickly and painlessly so that the client can accept the memory without feeling disturbed. I then help my clients to change any limiting beliefs, unpleasant feelings or unhelpful behaviours that may have been learned as a result of the trauma. For instance, a victim of rape may¬† have difficulty trusting men, or someone who has been violently abused may have difficulty with anger or with assertiveness.

I appreciate that these problems can be very personal. If you wish please feel free to call me and discuss the matter, with no obligation or commitment on your part.